Relationships can feel confusing, overwhelming, and painful, especially for neurodivergent and highly sensitive women. Trauma-informed coaching and support can help you make sense of what you’re feeling and navigate your way through.

 

​I’m Victoria Matthews (formerly Matthews-Patel), a trauma-informed coach and late-discovered neurodivergent woman.

I support neurodivergent and highly sensitive women to navigate the complexities of all kinds of relationships from relationship confusion and current dynamics to the pain of endings and breakdowns.

Together we work through emotional overwhelm and confusion to help you heal, build self-trust, grow and blossom into your next chapter with clarity and peace.

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​Do These Relationship Challenges Feel Familiar?​​

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• Do you often feel emotionally drained by your relationships?

• Do you find yourself replaying interactions over and over in your head and questioning whether the way you’re being treated is okay?

• Do you often feel lonely or misunderstood, even when you're with people?

• Do you long to feel truly seen, accepted, and connected but worry you’re “too much,” or fear people will reject you if you show up as your neurodivergent and highly sensitive self?

• Are you wondering if it’s time to end a relationship but feel uncertain, overwhelmed, or scared?

• Or maybe you're feeling overwhelmed by the emotional upheaval and uncertainty of a relationship ending, unsure how to make sense of what happened and move forward.
   

 

How I Support Neurodivergent and Highly Sensitive Women Through Relationship Confusion and Endings

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​​I can help you to:

• Gently explore your relationships and begin expressing what feels confusing, overwhelming, or painful.

• Reflect on how you’re being treated and gain clarity about what feels okay and what doesn’t.

• Navigate difficult situations, whether it’s ongoing dysfunctional dynamics, the uncertainty around ending a relationship, or processing a painful ending like a breakup, separation, or family estrangement.

• Understand what emotionally healthy, mature, and safe relationships look and feel like.

• Explore healthy ways to communicate and gently advocate for yourself in relationships.​

• Build your self-trust and emotional strength so you can blossom into your next chapter with greater clarity and confidence and relationships that nourish and fulfil you.

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Your Experience Matters: Support for Neurodivergent and Highly Sensitive Women Navigating Relationship Pain​

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​My work is about:

• Supporting you to talk about what is troubling you in your relationships.

• Hearing your pain.

• Allowing your intense emotions.

• Untangling your confusion.

• Making sense of things.
   

You might be starting to feel ready to say how things are for you, and to be allowed to feel as intensely as you do, without fear of judgment, someone telling you what to do, or trying to make you feel differently.
I know this can feel scary. We’ll move at your pace, creating space for clarity, compassion and healing to unfold so you can blossom into your next chapter and thrive in connection with others.

 

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Reflecting on Relationships and Self-Discovery

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​​Many highly sensitive and neurodivergent women have experienced complex and confusing relationships, often after years of masking and uncertainty about what is expected or acceptable.
A meaningful part of neurodivergent self-discovery involves examining your close relationships; understanding how they’ve shaped you and gaining clarity around what you truly need and want in connection with others.
For many, discovering neurodivergence later in life brings new insight into past or present dynamics, shedding light on why certain relationships felt overwhelming, one-sided, or unsafe, and why some may need to come to an end.

 

 

​The Impact of Relationship Endings

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​​The ending of a relationship can bring intense emotions and a profound sense of destabilisation.
Changes in connection, routine, and the uncertainty that comes with relational shifts, ruptures, or endings can lead to sensory overwhelm and disorientation.
Feeling emotions so deeply and intensely, it can be hard to find people who truly hold space for what you’re going through. This makes the pain of endings even harder to bear.

 

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Healing Through Trauma-Informed Support

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​What ultimately begins to heal those deep emotional wounds is having your pain witnessed and heard by someone who can truly hear you. Someone who understands and holds space without judgment.
I’m here to support you to make sense of complex relationships, gently navigate the intensity and depth of your feelings and work through the transitions that come with relational shifts, ruptures, or endings whilst also learning about emotionally healthy relationships.

 

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Why I Do This Work

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Because I know the pain of feeling like the problem, and the power of finally being understood.

I know what it feels like to feel lost and lonely in relationships; to bury your needs, to mask, and to work endlessly for support and love that always felt conditional.

For years, I made myself smaller to fit in. I was agreeable, accommodating, loyal and endlessly compassionate, whilst carrying deep emotional pain and a longing to be seen, heard, valued and loved.

It wasn’t until a breakdown in midlife that I started to see that it wasn’t me, it was the relationships I was in. That many of my relationships were not emotionally safe, healthy or secure.

With time, support, and trauma healing work, I began to untangle the patterns that had shaped me and learned about healthy communication and emotionally safe relationships.
I began to see the emotional harm I had normalised, the ways I silenced myself to keep the peace, and the grief of how much of myself I’d lost trying to belong and to be loved.

Over time I came to the realisation that some relationships needed to end, some could continue with mutual effort, and that I had the power to create new, emotionally healthy connections.
Though the pain and grief of endings run deep, stepping into healthier relationships has opened my life to peace, strength, and joy I hadn’t experienced before.

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Alongside my lived experience, I have professional training in trauma-informed support and coaching. This knowledge deepens my understanding of emotional wounds, nervous system responses, attachment styles, complex PTSD and how healing unfolds, equipping me to support you with expertise, insight and compassion.

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Together, we’ll make sense of your experiences, gently reconnect you to your inner voice, and help you rebuild self-trust and emotional strength.

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You don’t have to do this alone.

When you feel ready, I’m here.